It’s been a while since I’ve posted anything anywhere. But here I am, posting, at the end of an, er, uh, eventful year.
I’m in a much, much better place than I was this time last year in many ways. Things are somewhat calm in my life. And I am counting those blessings because I know there are many people for whom that is not the case. I will be taking a pay cut (I already have, and it will be extended) — and my health insurance and retirement payments will go up, too. I’m not complaining about these things, I know it’s a blessing to have them at all, and I would welcome additional income taxes to help the State I live in pay for more health, economic, and environmental justice, and education. I am really glad I chose (and had the choice) to live in a place with relatively low cost of living and an ethic that favors the simple over the extravagant.
From my personal fat acceptance front, I’ve also noticed a few changes. One is that my fatness isn’t as primary to my identity as it used to be. This hasn’t meant giving anything up, more integrating it into who I am and who I will always be. My fatness feels less temporary, and also less distancing.
I’m noticing a trend in my life (I know that not everyone is experiencing this trend, but it’s been a theme for me lately). Here’s what makes up the trend:
My nearly six year old girl said to me in the car something about fatness the other day. “Everyone is fat.” “Really?” I said. “Well, everyone has fat. And you need fat. It’s good to be at least a little bit fat,” she said.
I paused. Then I said, “But being skinny is okay, too. People who are skinny can’t help it, and they are beautiful, too.”
Keep in mind my girl is on the slim side, with “just a bit of fat.” Next to other children, she tends to look slender.
Today’s Dear Abby seems to be unusually fat positive (or at least fat neutral).
Problematic as the headline on the page I’m linking to is (Eradicating the Last Socially Acceptable Form of Discrimination — give me a break), I’m pleased to see the Canadian Obesity Network host it’s 1st Canadian Summit on Weight Bias and Discrimination. Anyone going? I’m sure it’s not going to be the Health-At-Every-Size (HAES) fest I wish it would be, but it’s a start.
I saw a great presentation on the Rudd Center’s Seminar Series page called “An Integrated Approach to Preventing Obesity and Eating Disorders in Youth: Why and How?” It’s very HAES-y. It comes to an anti-dieting, body-positive conclusion. I didn’t hear the podcast but I read the slide presentation and I loved it. Here’s where to find it (scroll down until you see Dianne Neumark-Sztainer, PhD, MPH, RD — of course, she’s an MPH!)
This article from the L.A. Times that I keep reading and re-reading and sending out to people.
Gabi Gregg. Her winning the spot as MTV’s T-J is not breaking news — but her success is inspiring.
None of this erases the difficulties that fat people still face. However, it’s nice to see something that appears to be, however incrementally, progress.
Wishing you all a happy and healthy and fun 2011!